Tuesday, August 10, 2010

3rd time's a charm

I'm sure you're all sitting on the edge of your seats to find out how my date went. No?

All I want to say is if a man is willing to travel to your shit town 2 days in a row, spend all that time with your crazy, insane friends and drink lots of beer; well then, he's pretty much perfect.

I'm off the dating sites now....what am I going to blog about? I've gotten so many compliments from all of you that I actually don't want to stop writing! I discussed it with HeHasADaughter and we agreed that as long as I'm not airing ALL our dirty laundry, I will keep writing. It's been a very, very long time since I was in the beginning of a new relationship- as in, since I was 18. So things have changed, and so have I. I have no clue on earth how to be a girlfriend anymore. Or especially a GOOD girlfriend. Even though I won't be trying to date anyone else...I'm going to have my work cut out for me anyways. Funny how I never thought of that beforehand. Did I really doubt myself that much in finding someone?

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Dateable? YES!

There are plenty of things that make you "undateable". Superman t-shirts (unless you're just wearing it to bed, although some of my friends would argue this point), karate, cell phone clips, tshirts that say shit about having sex or advertising Viagra.

Having a child does not make you undateable. And if you're HeHasADaughter, then I think you're very, very dateable.

I have spoken to HeHasADaughter every day this week, til all ungodly hours of the morning. (Unless it's the weekend, and we're partying. Perfectly reasonable hours to me!) We've talked about everything and anything, make crazy ridiculous plans of things we'll do together,(and I mean CRAZY) and have discussed something that many men are afraid of. Commitment. He's ready. I'm ready. Let the good times roll. We're meeting on Friday and I really can't wait.

He is also now a follower of this blog, because I wasn't smart enough to hide the links from him on Facebook. Luck on my side, he actually loves it and told me he looks forward to reading more. So, here it is, J, and it's all about you!!

I'm really looking to see where this is going to go, so I've not even been checking any messages from other guys. I'm taking a chance on this one. And his daughter. And I could not be more excited!

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

It.Just.Got.Interesting.

First things first- a big shout out to my friend DJ- an old friend who is going down the same dating road as me. Dude- don't ruin my blog for me! :)

Of course, another interesting day of strange and hopeful messages. I've head things like "I like your cheeks", to "you are sent from Heaven". How lovely? 

I knew I would be called fat somewhere along the way- today was the day. Please read this copy/paste of an IM I got minutes ago:
[3:36:37 pm] Jerk :would you like to come over tonight
[3:37:24 pm] Jerk:ANSWER THE QUESTION fatsp
[3:37:26 pm]Jerk: fatso
[3:37:35 pm]Jerk: answer the question FATSO
[3:38:00 pm]Jerk: u fat pig
[3:38:02 pm]Jerk: come over
[3:40:39 pm] ME: what the fuck is your problem
[3:40:55 pm]Jerk: jsut trying to get your attention
[3:41:00 pm]Jerk: its the only way these days
 
Well, that was encouraging.

For those of you that actually know me well, I do like children. While I may not plan to have any of my own, that does not mean I don't like your kids.
I met HeHasADaughter yesterday morning online. His profile mentioned he has a daughter who is the love of his life. So it's not like I was confused on that point. But I thought he was cute, so I wrote to him. We chatted during the day, and began texting when I left work. A phone call had me up until 4am. He seems sweet, and nice. But.......he's got a kid!! She's 10. Of course, one phone call doesn't mean I'm going to be a step-mom :) But I do like to think ahead and remember the reason I am trying this online dating in the first place: to find the right man for me.
Is it possible that the right man already had a child with the wrong woman? Would I be able to handle a relationship like that?
Truth is, I really don't know the answer.I'm still not sure if I should give him another call and set up a date. I hope I wouldn't be setting myself, or anyone else up, for disappointment.

Monday, August 2, 2010

New week, new boys

My weekend was far better spent in the hot tub than chatting with boys! So I don't have much to say today. I did get a ton a messages though, which I am sorting through right now.
Here is a good one:
Dolphin-Boy: "If you want to chat please make the 1st move or if you don't want to discuss subjects like Lady Gaga's sunglasses....delete me so I won't have a hope,which is better for me then I will not be waiting for you. Please write me back."

Can you imagine if I wrote to a guy and was like " Please write me back...don't leave me here hoping to hear from you....whine, whine, whine"

I would never hear back from anyone! Why is it that men are allowed to be what can only be called a bit desperate, but if a woman seems even slightly "needy", we're tossed to the curb? I get so many messages every day practically begging me to chat with them. Begging- I'm not kidding!!

Do women want a guy who is begging you for an IM? I don't.